Today I bring you the second part of the series “The
Difference God makes in your Life” Ray was an atheist friend of mine who was also one of the nicest, most
generous people I knew. He didn't believe in God and, even if there was a God, Ray didn't see the reason for church, and
religion. This conversation that I had with Ray brings up some very fundamental questions:
If religious
belief and church attendance don't necessarily make you a good person, and nonattendance and rejection of
religion don't necessarily make you a bad one, what is the point of being religious? What does the religious
person get out of his or her faith that the nonreligious person has to do without? Is there something we would all
be better off having, or something
that only some people - the weak and
the insecure, the spiritually inclined - need, and the rest of is can do without? For the religious
mind and soul, there is no question
about the existence of God, but the
question, really for the atheist, agnostic, and Christian, is what difference does God
and religion make in the way that we live
our lives?
Last week I
spoke about the moral guidance that God gives us. Grounding cur moral response to the
decision we face in day to day life gives us confidence that there is something profoundly right and correct in what we
do. Also, when we waver in our commitment, when we are on the verge of backing away from doing what we believe is good
and right because it is hard, inconvenient, unpopular or expensive, we need to know that our path is also God's path.
Another gift
that God and this church gives us is the gift of community. More than any other human
problem, loneliness, the absence of meaningful human connection, drains the joy and the sense of purpose from our lives. It explains why people go to shopping malls who have
no intention of shopping - they just
need to be someplace where other people are. More and more people are
suffering from this situation. The reasons
for this are our culture and our attitudes. This is a result of
individualism, independence, and
competitiveness.
As for
individualism, the family is no longer a unit in our society. It is a
collection of people living under the same roof. We have men and women with two
different careers, different shifts, different times and different demands. This ensures that they have very limited
time with each other or their children. We have people eating at different times of the day as they dash off to different activities. The table no longer is the place of rest and
conversation where our different
lives intersect, it is the place people grab fuel as they pass through. When people are home together,
they all have their can rooms, with their own televisions,
telephones, DVD players and computers. What we have isn't really family; we have a series of people each with their
separate working, sleeping, eating,
and recreation schedules. With
individualism being forced on us from our very birth, we grow up only thinking of ourselves and our own needs and become blind to the needs of others.
Love and sex become areas of conflict
and conquest rather than sharing and
intimacy. As such, even those within a family can be very lonely.
As for
independence, growing up as a Canadian we grow up believing that at a certain age, you leave the security of your family behind and set out in search of fame
and fortune. Many of us send our
children to university or trade school to become educated and then find that
either can’t be employed in our town or village and end up leaving for the big
city far from the place they knew as home. This has led to some impressive
results, but it has also led to a
rootless, lonely and detached society. We move away from our families and our support systems and then look
for ways to fill the hole that has been left. We join Elks clubs, Rotary, dart
teams, etc. But these are artificial bonds.
We know that we can leave them behind any time we want and they don't fill what we have left behind. Further, when we mess up or make mistakes, or need
something, we feel that we are on our own. We feel that to turn to others for help or understanding is to
admit our lives are a failure. This
is the isolation and loneliness that
our independence has given us.
Another thing
that our society does to leave us isolated and lonely is the competitiveness in
which we live our lives. We have been taught to see life as a race in which prizes are given to people or teams,
like the Montreal Canadiens, that finish first. As a result, we tend to see everyone around us as a potential rival,
seeking to cheat use or take advantage
of us somehow. Our gain means someone else's loss and vice versa. Look at the
tendering system. Look at the way
scholarships are given out. Look at the way we dole out love to our children.
We hold up the ones that achieve but make
excuses for or plain out hide the one who do not. "Why can't you be more like your brother?" Has anyone
here heard that before? This causes us to see other people as adversaries to be beaten and obstacles to be overcome.
This prevents us from seeking the contact that we need from people. If you have to worry about a husband, child, elderly
parent, they may distract you just enough to let someone else win the
rat race we are all in. Can you think of a
more effective attitude for creating a nation
full of lonely people?
In our word for
today from Ephesians 2:21 "We who believe are carefully joined
together becoming a holy temple for the Lord." Why did God choose
a building as an illustration of what it means to be spiritually
connected? Why did He choose a building
to demonstrate what the church is like?
Because in a
building, all the connected parts support each other. Beams support other beams. Walls support other walls and the roof holds
the walls together, the walls hold the roof up.
When the rain falls, when the lightning strikes, and when the winds
blow, all the bricks and beams stay fast. They're all connected and they're all
supporting.
That is one of your deepest
needs in life is support. You need the
support, like being a brick in a building. You need emotional support. You need physical support sometimes. You certainly need spiritual support. Where are you going to get it if you're not connected? Who's going to hold you up in the tough
times? Your bowling team? The guys at the bar?
Fortunately God has designed
a custom-made support network just for you.
That is called the church. Church
is not something you go to. Church is
not an event you attend. Church is a
family that God meant for you to be connected to, to be a part of. He wants you to have relationships and
connections and fellowship in the body of Christ, in the family of God.
God and our
church fights against this plague of loneliness. God calls us to love our neighbour. God calls on us to consider the thoughts,
feelings, and the situations of
those sitting next to us. God calls on us to love
each other, not to use each other. By teaching us to treat our neighbours as ourselves we learn to
focus on the needs of others and not
just be focused on our own. The funny thing is that when we are not fixated on our own loneliness, but on the needs of others, that is
when our loneliness is satisfied. God teaches us how to be a true friend, to be concerned with alleviating the
loneliness of others, learning to hear their cry instead of wondering why
no one hears ours.
What does God
and our church offer that we lonely souls need? It offers community. Our place of
worship offers us a refuge, an
island of caring in the midst of a hostile, competitive
world. In a society that segregates the old from the young, the rich from the poor, the successful from the struggling, the house of worship represents one
place where the barriers fall and we stand equal before God. It promises to be the one place in society where my
gain does not have to mean your
loss. In the house of the Lord you are
not black or white. You are not old or young. You are not rich or poor. In the house of the Lord, and
only because of God, that we can
approach each other as brothers and sisters, all equal in God's sight. You are
not a nurse. You are not a lawyer.
You are not a fisherman. You are not a
social insurance recipient. You are my brother. You are my sister.
This is why I
don't agree with people who say I believe in God but not in going to church. This is
why I don't like televangelism that gives us an excuse to stay home. This is why we have church services at certain
hours. It is not because God has office hours. It is because God doesn't just want to bring people to Him. God wants to bring people together with each other. This is a
purpose of God. This is the function of religion. This is the work o the church. Any church that excludes people is not
doing the work of God. It is doing the work of Satan.
I think it is blasphemous if a church's members spend
all their time worrying
about the heat, the lights and the sound system but no time about how they make people
feel when they enter into their sanctuary.
My friends, it is through God and his church that we learn
to relate to each other, and to belong
to each other, in truly
human ways. In the brightest of days or the
darkest of
nights God is always with us, and if we learn what our Saviour taught us we can be there for
each other as well.
This is just one thing that the Christian gets out of their faith that the nonreligious
person has to do without.
This is just one difference that God has made in our lives.